Wisdom Of The Rooms - 2020

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November 9

Quote of the Week

"Worrying is praying for things you don’t want to happen."

I don’t know where my tendency to worry came from. Perhaps I learned it from my mother, the queen of fretting, but I’m sure good at it. Before the program, I would worry and stress over most areas of my life. Even if something good happened, my automatic thought was, This isn’t going to last. Little did I know that my tendency to worry was driven by something far darker and more pervasive than just my upbringing: the disease of alcoholism.

I used to read books like The Secret, which teach that thoughts are things, and that what you think about most you attract into your life. These books tell us that the law of attraction is neutral, and it responds to your deeply felt beliefs and desires, both good and bad. In recovery, I learned that the disease of alcoholism negatively affects my thinking, and the disease was happy when I attracted more pain and suffering into my life. What a shock that was to learn.

When I got sober, I thought the solution was to instead just think of all the good things I wanted. What I soon learned, however, was that even praying for what I think I want (my will) still brought unwanted situations and negative people into my life. Today, I’ve found a better way. The Eleventh Step teaches me to pray for the knowledge of God’s will and the power to carry that out. This not only removes worry from my life but also attracts the best outcomes for all concerned. This is my solution today.