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bluidkiti · 08-28-2013, 10:43 AM

August 29

It's Not Always Easy to Take Advice

Profiting from good advice requires more wisdom than giving advice. People with the least experience are fountains of advice, whereas seasoned veterans often sit quietly. For those seeking guidance, therefore, look among those who are maintaining their silence. Veterans say, Listen and do as you're told. No one likes to hear this, but it is good advice. The behavior of active addiction was largely doing what we wanted to do, rather than what we should do. Recovery requires a reversal of this.

bluidkiti · 08-29-2013, 09:34 AM

August 30

Don't Be Afraid of Real Sorrow

Following her husband's death, a woman with years of sobriety felt she was derelict because she was feeling sorry for herself. Some in the program told her she must learn how to be happy. This is a distortion. The program is critical of feeling sorry for yourself and blaming everyone else for consequences of your addictive behavior. However, when you feel genuine grief from loss of a loved one, that is a healthy emotion. We must be careful not to distort the wonderful ideas of the program. When in doubt, check with senior people in sobriety who can tell you what these concepts really mean.

bluidkiti · 08-30-2013, 09:41 AM

August 31

Fear Can Destroy You

If we were asked to walk a plank suspended in the air, fear of falling might cause such anxiety we could not keep our balance. The fear would actually cause us to fall. This phenomenon is true of chemical relapse as well. We may be so terrified of relapse, and work ourselves into so intense a state of panic; we are driven to take a chemical for relief. This can also occur with any task where we fear failure. Putting things in their proper perspective, taking a challenge one bit at a time, and trusting in our Higher Power can help us avoid the destructive panic.

MajestyJo · 08-11-2018, 09:31 PM

Can't see my self on a plank,but there are often situations that I am better off staying away from. If I find myself there, I would ask for help and say R.S.V.P., I need to ask for change. It isn't about the other person, it is about the choices I made to get there and whatdo I needto get out of it or how to go through it.

08-28-2013, 10:43 AM	#1
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 73,903	August 29 It's Not Always Easy to Take Advice Profiting from good advice requires more wisdom than giving advice. People with the least experience are fountains of advice, whereas seasoned veterans often sit quietly. For those seeking guidance, therefore, look among those who are maintaining their silence. Veterans say, Listen and do as you're told. No one likes to hear this, but it is good advice. The behavior of active addiction was largely doing what we wanted to do, rather than what we should do. Recovery requires a reversal of this. __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

08-29-2013, 09:34 AM	#2
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 73,903	August 30 Don't Be Afraid of Real Sorrow Following her husband's death, a woman with years of sobriety felt she was derelict because she was feeling sorry for herself. Some in the program told her she must learn how to be happy. This is a distortion. The program is critical of feeling sorry for yourself and blaming everyone else for consequences of your addictive behavior. However, when you feel genuine grief from loss of a loved one, that is a healthy emotion. We must be careful not to distort the wonderful ideas of the program. When in doubt, check with senior people in sobriety who can tell you what these concepts really mean. __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

08-30-2013, 09:41 AM	#3
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 73,903	August 31 Fear Can Destroy You If we were asked to walk a plank suspended in the air, fear of falling might cause such anxiety we could not keep our balance. The fear would actually cause us to fall. This phenomenon is true of chemical relapse as well. We may be so terrified of relapse, and work ourselves into so intense a state of panic; we are driven to take a chemical for relief. This can also occur with any task where we fear failure. Putting things in their proper perspective, taking a challenge one bit at a time, and trusting in our Higher Power can help us avoid the destructive panic. __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

08-11-2018, 09:31 PM	#4
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Can't see my self on a plank,but there are often situations that I am better off staying away from. If I find myself there, I would ask for help and say R.S.V.P., I need to ask for change. It isn't about the other person, it is about the choices I made to get there and whatdo I needto get out of it or how to go through it. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

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