CODEPENDANCY

[MajestyJo]

Found on Circle for Recovery - original source unknown:

Co-dependency victimizes self by sacrifices to others.

As it is basically a self worthiness issue, so it also began when first criticized as a child.

The child learned that it was not 'good' enough to be loved per se and identified love/non-love with approval/disapproval.

Approval/disapproval is conditional love, where we suffer from the conditions.

Seeking always love 'outside self' from approval of others, victimizes self and causes us sacrifice.

Self-Love arises from within self-Acceptance

Sacrifice denies self worth and aspects of self now secretly judged, are denied love.

Sacrifice could be said to be an addiction.

Self acceptance to achieve a sense of worthiness, is the healing and why the 12 steps can be applied.

The various ways to achieve self acceptance grants back to self, the power we give away playing victim.

Greatest power is granted in the higher Power, potentially equal in all.