We Do Recover

[MajestyJo]

Let go of blame

"My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end. Nothing is easier than fault finding."

-- Og Mandino

We often expect other people to meet our needs. When they don’t give us what we want, we may feel anger, resentment and even revengeful. Rather than blaming others, we could choose to get in touch with our needs and then fill them ourselves.

"Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame."

-- Erica Jong

"Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrong."

-- Charlotte Bronte

- Higher Awareness

Was just sharing with a member tonight of how we need to build a relationship with our God, our sponsor, and with ourselves, before we get into a relationship with another. How can we tell someone what we need, if we don't know ourselves.

I almost died from playing the blame game. I continued that game relationship after relationship, and the last guy got all the sins of those who had gone before him, because I didn't know how to grieve, forgive, and let go.

As the Al-Anon slogan says, "Let it begin with me." It isn't about the other person, it is about me and living clean and sober myself.

I can hide and not look at my own program, if I hide in others. It is good to do service, but I need to top myself up each day. I can't give away what I don't have.