Wisdom Of The Rooms - 2025

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March 17

Quote of the Week

"Relationship: Real Exciting Love Affair Turns Insanely Obsessive; Now Sobriety Hangs in Peril."

Someone once said that getting into a relationship in early recovery is like throwing Miracle-Gro on your character defects. The danger comes from not having developed a proper relationship and reliance on a Higher Power; what happens is that the other person quickly becomes a Higher Power. Because people aren’t perfect, this total reliance on someone almost always ends in frustration and hurt feelings.

The other problem comes from our self-obsessive natures. Self-centered in the extreme and new to recovery, we obsessively use the other person to fill the tremendous void we still feel. We soon find, however, that our self-seeking continues to get us nowhere, and before long we stand at the precipice with our nascent sobriety in danger.

Over time, we come to understand the importance of developing and relying on a right relationship with God. We learn to turn our character defects over to Him and to give of ourselves unselfishly, knowing that our true purpose is to be of service to others. Once we are on this right footing, all our relationships flow smoothly, and we finally experience the peace and serenity we always sought. Now, we can bring this sense of peace to a relationship rather than rely on the relationship to give it to us.