Dr. Twerski's Sober Thought - November

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November 16

Flattery Can Be Dangerous

Insincere flattery is unbecoming, but when we praise someone who behaves improperly, it is dangerous because it reinforces that behavior. When others see a wrongdoer receiving praise, they wonder why they should deprive themselves of things that can be obtained illicitly when dishonest behavior is rewarded? Even if a person knows we are fawning, he eventually believes his own lies. We are then doubly disappointed: to have compromised our integrity and to have received nothing in return. Rigorous honesty is an essential component of recovery, and is most beneficial in the long run.