Many of us will enter into our recovery with high ideals about ourselves and about what it's going to take for all of us to succeed in our life and in our recovery. None of which are true for any of us or realistic if we want to succeed in anything we do. We have to if only a little at a time give the ideal of having to be perfect in order to have success. Recovery is built around the fact that we're all not going to be perfect, nor do we have to be, in order to be in recovery. In recovery we're all allowed to learn from our mistakes. That's how it's designed so that we can without having to beat ourselves up in the process which never did any of us any good. In the process of recovery we also learn it's okay to like ourselves where we are now and how we can get to where we want to be by learning what works and doesn't work which is different for all of us. Trial and error and learning from this is how we'll grow to love ourselves and those around us. Recovery is all about allowing us all to be free to find what's best for each of us based on us being true to ourselves. No none of us will ever be perfect, but learning how we can learn from our mistakes then we'll all become better then when we're all trying to be perfect.