What characterizes this problem for us is not all the different results we're all getting because of having it, but by what's causing us all to get these results and that is the same for all of us, even when the results we've been getting are different. This is our problem, the one the program of recovery is all about and designed to correct in all of us, not the results we're all getting but what's causing us all to get them. Recovery is about working on the things that are causing us to have this problem and these have to do with us being self-centered, selfish, and egotistical. All these have formed in all of us as a means of protection from something making it hard for any of us want to change, or to let go of being the way we are. We all think we have to be the way we are in order for us to survive. This may have been true at the time we all formed being the way we are, but by now we've all usually outgrown the need for being this way, but the problem for all of us is that none of us knew of any other way we could be. In recovery together we are all shown how we can change from being the way we are that's no longer working for any of us, to a way that will always work for all of us for the rest of our lives.