If we are not willing to have our life's completely changed then we're not ready for recovery yet. It's only after having a complete collapse of the way we're living do any of us ever come across enough willingness to allow for this to happen. We'll know we have reached that point when we are willing to be open to new ideas about how to live life. Keep in mind no matter how much our life will change because of recovery, we'll always be who we are, and that never changes, it's important that we know this. Recovery doesn't make us into something that we are not, it allows us to become more aware of who we are, and in doing so we able to understand better how to live life being the way we are. A rebirth doesn't play a role in recovery, what we'll get from recovery is an awakening, and it's when we want to understand better how we can learn to live with the way we are, then we're ready for recovery.