Get Over It

[bluidkiti]

Get Over It

Open rebuke is better than love that is hidden. —Proverbs 27:5

Hiding your true feelings, like resentment or unforgiveness, keeps you in bondage to them. It is impossible to get your day started right if you keep waking up with pain from yesterday’s wounds. If you carry around this kind of “emotional baggage,” it will poison your day.

Sometimes you have to confront things to make them better. But use wisdom. While it is good to talk about things, don’t dump all your thoughts and emotions on every person who comes along today.

Talk to God about your situation before you meet anyone. He may lead you to speak with someone you trust. But if He doesn’t, learn to trust it completely to Him, and let it go.

From the book Starting Your Day Right

[BW1]

But use wisdom.

ah yes...I use the word "discretion" or "discernment" and these I believe are gifts that we can pray for. They will be granted if we ask for them.. When we trust God completely He will lead us to those that are trustworthy that we can talk over or vent those feelings so we can gain a new perspective in order to move forward and know the next right action

[MajestyJo]

Many people say, "Get over it" because they don't realize that we have a disease and only a spiritual solution will allow us to get over what ever defects and beliefs from the past. We can make new tapes and learn to play them, instead of those old mixed messages that kept us sick and insecure.

When we come into recovery, we are given the tools to deal with the old baggage from our past, leave it there, and live in today. So many things in today are rooted in the past and I found that I needed to look at the whole picture and not just put on a band aid to make it all better. That is why we have Steps 4-9.

Letting go isn't about saying go away, it is about surrendering to our God and the program, and living this new way of live with a new way of thinking. It doesn't limit anyone, it is our thinking that can give us a narrow outlook and a closed mind.

I can be guilty of dumping. I have this issue, I don't want to hang onto it. I started at the back of my phone book one afternoon and called everyone, and I got to the Rs before I found someone home. It was a guy, who facilitated a Friday meeting. I said, "I hope you have time, I need to talk, and since you answered the phone, you are it." Using is not an option. Holding onto things is not a good thing, we are only as sick as our secrets. It isn't just person to person, it is meditation, working with my angel cards, writing things out and always looking at my part in things, it is not about the other person. Recovery starts with me.