Being new to recovery can be very confusing. The message seems to be that we need to be helped, but also need to take care of ourselves. Not to be so self-centered, but to be selfish. This is confusing for many of us because instead of trying to live our lives in a healthy way we've been focused on an impossible problem that fuels the resentments we need to live the life we're living. The simple things such as good nutrition, exercise, proper sleep we learn we must focus on these things and the many more things that are all about self care. Everything else beyond taking care of ourselves we learn is not in our control, and is best left to a higher power. It's really quite simple