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bluidkiti
05-02-2023, 07:07 AM
May 1
Treasure of existence
Treasure the strength you have gained in dark times. Treasure the joys you have discovered in the sunshine.
Treasure the friends you’ve made, the loves you’ve lost, the opportunity to share life with them all. Treasure the memories of what’s been, the beauty of what is, and your possibilities for the future.
What you treasure becomes more of a treasure. And you can find it in yourself to treasure it all.
Even the days that are far from pleasant still have value to add to your life. Even the stories with sad endings bring richness and depth to your experience.
Instead of striving to find things to treasure, see the treasure in whatever fills each moment. Life’s treasures are always present if you let them be.
Here, now, the treasure of existence surrounds you. See it, appreciate it, live it, and make it even more of a treasure by doing so.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-02-2023, 07:08 AM
May 2
Simply enjoy
Some things you can change, some things you must accept and endure. Some things you can simply enjoy.
Without the need to capture, to possess, to preserve or to modify, you can simply enjoy. Without having to impress yourself or anyone else, you can simply enjoy.
Let go, and enjoy the sound of water tumbling over the rocks. Delight in the experience of children playing as they will, without being coached or coddled or scolded.
Enjoy the moment in the moment. Enjoy not having to save it for later, confident that there will be other moments you can enjoy.
Enjoy when everything goes as you planned and even when everything doesn’t. Enjoy being able to enjoy, whatever each day may bring.
Joy is a powerful state to be in. Gently guide yourself there, and enjoy.
— Ralph Marston
willbe275
05-02-2023, 01:12 PM
Happy New Month My Dear awesome friends.
Thanking God for getting though the
month of April one day at a time.
God bless you and please take the
time to smell the flowers, enjoy
the Sunshine of life. God bless you
Tammy and Kracker.
bluidkiti
05-03-2023, 07:53 AM
May 3
Details upon details
Flying across the sky gets you where you’re going quickly. But it doesn’t provide much opportunity to experience where you’ve been.
Sometimes it’s essential to arrive at your destination as soon as possible. At other times, though, you can find much value in discovering what’s along the way.
Certainly the big picture matters quite a lot, and is good to understand. Yet every big picture is composed of details upon details, and those details are important too.
Whether you’re traversing a physical or intellectual distance, you have a delicate balance to maintain. You must go fast enough to get there and slow enough to understand where you are.
The details connect one place to another, one concept to other concepts, ideas, and expressions. Details provide insights that add great value to whatever you intend to do.
Seek to be fast and efficient, but not too fast, not overly efficient. You don’t want to cheat yourself out of all the opportunities to be found in the details.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-04-2023, 06:19 AM
May 4
Strength is a choice
It is not easy to call upon your strength, and to develop even more. Yet it is possible, and accessible, and highly beneficial.
People advise you to be strong, and of course it’s easy for them to say, while difficult for you to do. Nonetheless, it’s good advice.
Strength begins on the inside, and what’s there inside is largely up to you. No matter how many resources, advantages and connections you do or do not have, you have access to your own strength.
Strength is a choice. It comes from your intentions, your values, your priorities, your commitment to yourself and others.
Certainly strength can be abused, but that doesn’t mean that strength itself is undesirable. It just means you must be careful and respectful with it.
Ask yourself what it will take to grow stronger inside, and seek to follow that path. Choose strength, and use it well.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-05-2023, 07:56 AM
May 5
Something good from it
What irritates you does not last. Consider that, let go of the irritation, and move on.
What frustrates you provides insight into your own priorities. Use that as an opportunity to focus on those priorities rather than on the frustration.
What angers you gives you energy. Find a way to point that energy in a positive, productive direction.
What frightens you alerts you to possible dangers. Use that awareness to better prepare yourself for successfully handling or avoiding the dangers.
What initially arrives as difficulty, discomfort or unpleasantness can be turned to your advantage. That’s been the catalyst for much of your skill, wisdom, strength, and will continue to be.
What is going on in your world right now, and how can you make something good from it? Challenge yourself to find a way, for your very own history proves that you will.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-06-2023, 07:28 AM
May 6
Making progress
There is a difference between difficult and impossible. Success is a matter of respecting and acting on that difference.
Let go of what’s impossible. Put your best into doing what’s difficult and valuable.
Making progress within the bounds of reality is often difficult, yet it can be done. Going entirely against reality, however, is impossible.
Wishes will never be magically granted just because you wish them. Yet all sorts of amazing achievements and experiences are within your grasp when you’re willing to put forth the necessary effort.
Dream whatever amazing dreams you can imagine, and then ask yourself. What parts of those dreams can actually be realized, and how exactly can that be done?
You can find more than enough real, achievable possibilities for a rich and fulfilling life. Move past the empty wishes for what cannot be done, and do the work to bring about all the good things that can.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-07-2023, 08:08 AM
May 7
Your own best potential
It’s easy to sit back and let yourself be captivated by the follies of others. But you’re capable of so much more.
The more difficult option is to figure out what you care about and get yourself deeply involved in it. That’s also a much more fulfilling option.
Your life has great and unique value. Can you feel, somewhere inside, the obligation to be true to your own best potential?
There’s never any reason to beat yourself up for falling short of perfection. Yet you can always encourage yourself to be more purposeful, authentic, and engaged in life.
With each choice that confronts you, consider this question. What is the path that enables you to more fully fulfill your potential?
You can choose that path a little more often, a lot more often, perhaps even most of the time. Imagine what that could do, and then work to live the reality of what you imagine.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-08-2023, 07:40 AM
May 8
Better possibilities
What do you want for your life, for all of life? How can you be sure there’s not something much, much better?
Could you be seeking some particular thing so single-mindedly that you fail to see other, more desirable possibilities? Might you be sabotaging your own fulfillment by envisioning fulfillment in a far too limited way?
It’s all well and good to get what you desire. But perhaps it’s even better sometimes when you don’t get what you desire.
When your path to fulfillment is blocked, you’re forced to consider other paths. That’s not such a bad thing.
Surely there are possibilities you’re not aware of. Be careful not to let your obsession with just a few possibilities blind you to all the others.
Clarify your intentions, set your goals, and go for them. But never let that stop you from being open to everything else that is possible.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-09-2023, 07:13 AM
May 9
Good and fruitful living
It can be easy to feel disdain for that which you don’t understand or don’t agree with. Yet as accessible as that disdain may be, it doesn’t accomplish much.
Rather than sinking deeper into it, let the first twinge of disdain prompt you to turn your thoughts elsewhere. Choose to deploy your energy, your awareness, your thinking in more beneficial ways.
This world is full of opportunities for joy, goodness, and fulfillment. Don’t let a few misguided people convince you otherwise.
Somewhere the sun shines, the sea sparkles, and children laugh without the slightest care. Envision that reality and make it your business to make more of it.
Breathe in the fresh air of possibility. Let your thoughts and actions be driven by your love for life and for the best it can be.
Certainly the world has its dark corners, yet there’s plenty of territory available for good and fruitful living. Choose to inhabit that territory, and live to expand its size and influence.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-10-2023, 06:15 AM
May 10
Good for all
When you oppose, you oppose yourself too. When you love, you love yourself too.
Conflict is sometimes necessary but that doesn’t make it preferable. More often than not there’s a much better option.
You are interconnected with everyone and everything else in ways that are obvious and ways you’ll never know. Every action brings consequences that go far beyond where it’s directed.
You cannot win by seeking to cause loss. Seek instead to create value, and its benefits will flow through all of life.
Appreciate the connections you can see and respect the ones that remain hidden. Make good use of the energy and sustenance that all those connections bestow.
Genuine joy, freedom, peace are desirable wherever and among whomever they exist. Do what enables life to be good for all, and good for you.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-11-2023, 07:19 AM
May 11
Inner critic
It’s useful to be critical of yourself. Yet for that criticism to serve a positive purpose, you must quickly act on it.
Otherwise, your criticism of yourself just devolves into an excuse for your own negative behavior. You figure that even though you’re doing something you know is wrong, at least you feel bad about it.
But merely feeling bad is not enough, and is harmful in its own right to your image of yourself. A much more beneficial response to self criticism is self improvement.
Is there something you’re repeatedly criticizing yourself for doing? Take that as a strong signal that you must find a way to stop doing it.
Is there something you’re continually insisting to yourself that you must do? Then figure out how, and get it done.
Your inner critic knows you well, and can offer some good advice. Graciously accept that advice, and diligently act on it.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-12-2023, 07:01 AM
May 12
Live as who you are
Some people will agree with you and some people won’t. And in most cases, there’s nothing you can do to change that.
Some people will like you, admire you, respect you, and others won’t. That will be the case no matter what you do.
Yes, you can strive to impress and accommodate people in an effort to gain their favor. But such overt desperation is unlikely to earn any agreement or genuine respect.
Your best option is to simply be your authentic self. You cannot force everyone to admire you, but you can enable people to see who you truly are.
Some people are never going to resonate with you. Yet many people will appreciate and admire you for being open and honest about who you are.
Do and say what’s real, what’s true, what’s in line with your values, your preferences, your passions. The most impressive thing you can ever do is to live as who you are.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-13-2023, 07:29 AM
May 13
The hardest task
Pick the hardest task in front of you today. Tackle it first, with utmost focus, and persist until it is done.
Experience yourself in the process of being your best. Demonstrate to yourself how good you can be at doing what’s difficult, challenging, and meaningful.
Revel in the intoxicating feeling of being highly effective. Fill your awareness with the energy of achievement.
Then notice how your possibilities have expanded. Observe how the lame excuses have retreated into hiding.
Doing the difficult work brings valuable results, yet it also achieves something even more important. It creates a more enthusiastic, intentional, positive version of you.
That happens because you’re doing what you’re meant to do. You’re making a meaningful and beneficial difference in life.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-13-2023, 07:29 AM
May 14
Dance together
Stop forcing your limitations to clash with your possibilities. Let them dance together.
You cannot eliminate all limitations and challenges from life. What you can do is work within them, alongside them, to fulfill the possibilities you wish to fulfill.
That requires some give and take, adjustments, innovation, boldness, understanding, and creativity. Think of it as a graceful and exhilarating dance.
Though your limitations may seem at first glance to oppose your possibilities, that’s not entirely true. For if there were no limitations of any kind, the possibilities would have no value.
Let go of your resentment about what’s holding you back. Find ways to work with it, to dance with it, rather than fighting against it.
Tease out the opportunities that exist within your challenges and limitations. And gracefully dance your way to the fulfillment of your best possibilities.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-15-2023, 07:22 AM
May 15
Push through resistance
It’s not particularly useful to examine why you experience resistance. The key is to break through that resistance and to get your work done.
You feel guilty, reluctant, ashamed, bored, fearful, frustrated, indecisive, and so much more. But those are just feelings, and they can influence your actions only to the extent you let them.
Do you really want to feel better? Then choose to focus more on what you can do, and less on what you feel.
Your feelings are real, they matter. And you can significantly improve your feelings by putting them aside and working in the direction of achievement.
Push through the initial barrier of your resistance. Then keep going, step by step, getting good things done.
Even when you don’t feel like doing it, you can take action. Even when your internal resistance is strong, your desire, your will, your intention can be stronger.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-16-2023, 07:17 AM
May 16
No magic bullet
There is no magic bullet, no blanket immunity that can protect you from every one of life’s difficulties. But there is strength, along with fortitude, persistence, resourcefulness, diligence, innovation and more.
You cannot wall yourself off from the troubles. What you can do is equip yourself to successfully deal with them.
What you can do is nurture deep and lasting relationships built on trust, respect, and integrity. You can gain experience at adapting to new, different, and changing situations.
You can set aside any tendency toward arrogance and do the work to build genuine confidence. You can let go of any sense of entitlement and put forth time and effort to become more competent and effective.
You can savor the beauty, the joy, the moments when circumstances work in your favor. You can appreciate, value, and learn from all the good work of all the real people who came before you.
None of this is particularly easy, and that’s what makes it so powerful. There’s nothing you can do to avoid every problem and pain, yet there’s everything you can do to live with purpose, richness, and fulfillment.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-17-2023, 07:13 AM
May 17
Positively influence the future
Make the choices today that will make you thankful tomorrow. Act in this moment in a way you’ll look back to with gratitude.
Are there choices in your past that you regret? Don’t burden yourself with any new regrets.
You have the opportunity right now to influence the quality of your life going forward. Make good use of that opportunity.
Today will soon end, yet its consequences can continue for months or years. Do all you can so those consequences will be more helpful than harmful.
No one can accurately predict the future. Yet anyone on any day has the very real ability to positively influence the future.
So go ahead and imagine yourself looking back on right now. And do what your future self would most want you to do.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-18-2023, 06:52 AM
May 18
Excellent choices
Insist on honesty from yourself, with yourself and others. Insist on doing what must be done.
Insist on honoring your commitments. Insist on getting your work completed in a timely manner.
Insist that you focus on what’s meaningful and beneficial. Insist on being open to new ideas, tolerant and respectful of others.
Insist from yourself that you approach each interaction with kindness and genuine care. Insist on finding the positive possibilities in every situation.
You are worthy and capable of living with the highest of standards. Hold yourself to those standards.
An excellent life is composed of excellent choices. From yourself, insist on nothing less.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-19-2023, 07:14 AM
May 19
Plain old ordinary work
Life’s dramas are interesting, invigorating, instructive, and often consequential. But a good life is about more than drama.
The mundane, tedious parts of life matter, perhaps even more than the drama. Because it is in those circumstances that much of life’s important work gets done.
Keeping an electric generation plant maintained and running is not particularly dramatic. Yet it makes a major difference in the lives of thousands of people.
Driving a truck that delivers fresh groceries to supermarkets is a somewhat tedious job. Nonetheless, it provides families with reliable, healthy nutrition.
In the ordinary is great value. In the mundane are widespread opportunities to make a positive difference.
Drama can be very entertaining. What sustains life, though, are quiet competence, dependability, and the willingness to do plain old ordinary work.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-20-2023, 07:22 AM
May 20
A beautiful day
Make a beautiful day by deciding it will be. Make a beautiful day by embracing what is and giving your best to it.
A beautiful day does not require any particular circumstances. Each day is what you make of it, and you can make a beautiful day out of any day you choose.
A beautiful day depends on you, not on what is provided to you. Today has plenty of potential for beauty even though it is not perfect.
A beautiful day is more than you can imagine beforehand that it will be. A beautiful day largely comes from all you allow and enable it to be as it unfolds.
You don’t have to try so hard to live a beautiful day. You don’t have to be shackled by the fear of what might or might not happen.
Just be beautiful in your very own way. And live yourself a beautiful day.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-20-2023, 07:28 AM
May 21
Live right now
You’re here now. Think like it, act like it.
There are upcoming events and obligations you know about, and other upcoming twists and turns that will surprise you. As compelling as all that may be, none of it is here yet.
What is here, and what is now, is your life in this moment and your opportunity to live it well. Apply your focus, your thoughts, and your considerable skills to what’s going on right now.
It’s useful to anticipate the future, to plan and prepare for it. Just be careful not to be obsessed or overwhelmed by it.
There’s much you can live and do and see and experience right now. While right now is here, give those things your top priority.
Take a breath, look around, and recognize the powerful time and place you’re already in. Then step forward, focused and aware of this moment’s great possibilities, and live right now.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-22-2023, 06:40 AM
May 22
Achieve gradually
There are a few objectives you can achieve quickly. There are many more objectives you can achieve gradually.
You cannot learn a new language or other complex skill in a few days. Yet over a year or two with consistent, gradual effort, you can make massive progress.
Are there specific meaningful goals that elude you in the moment? Imagine going to work on one of them gradually.
Make time work in your favor by making use of it as it comes. Give yourself a way to carry value forward from each day you go through.
Set out to achieve gradually, and every morning when you wake up you already have a clear purpose. Do the work to achieve gradually, and enable yourself to look back with satisfaction at how far you’ve come.
Countless possibilities are open to you when you give them enough time. Achieve gradually, and discover how very much you can do.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-23-2023, 07:23 AM
May 23
Learning ambition
You have more potential than you think. You’re capable of more than you realize.
How do you expand your understanding of what you can do? You give yourself an ambitious challenge.
What would you like to do, or be, to have, or experience, that you never thought you could do? You’ll never know for sure unless you give it a shot.
Once you’ve made the commitment and are underway, your assumption is likely to change. Maybe you’ll get all the way there, maybe only part of the way.
Yet it’s almost certain that you’ll make at least some amount of progress. And that’s a whole lot better than doing nothing.
Ambition is a skill you can teach yourself. Go ahead and see how much you can learn.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-24-2023, 07:00 AM
May 24
Action, not worry
There are plenty of issues to be concerned about in today’s world. And though concern is admirable, concern alone doesn’t accomplish much.
For each topic that worries you, ask yourself something. What exactly can you do about it?
If you’re able to come up with an answer, that’s great. Instead of unproductive worrying, you can apply your energy in a beneficial direction.
If you determine there’s nothing you can do, that’s also a good thing to know. Because you can then direct your time, your thoughts, and your actions into other places where you can make a difference.
You accomplish nothing by fretting over situations that are completely beyond your control. And what’s worse, it can lead you into a spiral of frustration, helplessness, anger and despair.
Instead, identify what you actually can do, and devote yourself to doing it. That’s a whole lot better for your world, and for you as well.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-25-2023, 07:27 AM
May 25
Nested problems
Many times when you solve one problem the reward is another problem. That’s frustrating, but it’s also a great opportunity.
Because when you’re solving problems you’re creating value. And if one problem points to another, and then to another, that’s a lot of potential value.
Other people might have encountered the same nested problem, and given up in frustration. All that value is waiting for someone who is willing to persist.
By digging through the problems one by one, not only do you unlock a great deal of value. You also improve your skill at addressing many different kinds of issues.
Rather than giving in to frustration, muster some well deserved enthusiasm. You’ve come across a challenge that will compel you to grow stronger, that promises rich rewards.
See a nested problem for the opportunity it is. And be the person to transform that opportunity into treasure.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-26-2023, 07:26 AM
May 26
Great new experiences
Treasure the good experiences in your past by creating more good experiences in the present. Express gratitude for what you’ve done with your eagerness to do more.
Honor all the good books you’ve read by finding more to read. Pay homage to the beautiful places you’ve visited by discovering new beauty in the present world.
Celebrate the great friendships you’ve known by continuing the ones you can while also being open to new friends. Acknowledge the good work you’ve done by expanding and making further use of your skills.
Remember the lessons you’ve struggled to learn and look for opportunities to put them into practice. Think of what made the good old days so good and bring those values to life in the present day.
It’s good when you can ponder your pleasant memories. What’s even better is to transform that past goodness into present action.
Be inspired by the life you’ve lived so far. And let that inspiration serve as the starting point for great new experiences.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-27-2023, 08:37 AM
May 27
Motivating yourself
You have five hours to do two hours worth of work. What are your options?
You could spend three and a half hours procrastinating and worrying about how difficult the work will be. That will force you to spend the last ninety minutes rushing and making compromises to produce a substandard result.
You could fill the entire five hours working at a leisurely pace, taking breaks, giving in to distractions, working a little more. That will get the job done, and waste much of your precious time.
Or, you could start right away, focus intently on the work, and persist until you’ve achieved an excellent result. In that case you’ll have three hours for something else, free of worry, free of anxiety, with no deadline hanging over you.
It can be difficult motivating yourself to get started early, and to push all the way through. So instead of thinking just about getting started, think of the entire experience and how you’ll feel at the end.
The time is yours, the choice is yours, the work is there to be done. What approach will you decide to take?
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-27-2023, 08:38 AM
May 28
Good to everyone
Kindness toward others is kindness toward yourself. Patience with others gives rise to more patience with yourself.
There’s nothing particularly selfish about acting in your own self interest. Because in order to truly do so you must also further the interests of others.
Even when you create value solely for yourself, the benefits of your good work extend far beyond you. When you act with love, creativity, and goodness, that goodness cannot be contained.
In the very same way any time you create value for others, you too are a beneficiary. No matter where your good intentions and actions are directed, they reflect back on you.
Your sincere generosity raises the energy level of all life. So do beauty, understanding, appreciation, wisdom, gratitude and more.
Never pass up the opportunity to act with goodness, no matter its direction. Be good to you, and good to everyone else.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-29-2023, 07:52 AM
May 29
Take yes for an answer
You can become so obsessed with what you desire that the desire takes on a life of its own. Then, when you actually get what you desire, there’s a big empty hole where the desire used to be.
Learn to take yes for an answer. When you get what you want, be prepared to do something meaningful with it.
How do you do that? By focusing less on desire and more on purpose.
When there’s something you want, ask yourself why. Do you desire it just for the sake of having a desire or is there a deeper reason, and an even deeper reason underlying that?
Do you want it just so you can say you have it, or will it serve some purpose that’s meaningful to you? Before you become too invested in any desire, make sure it is worthy of your effort and energy.
Then, when you actually get what you desire, you won’t be left feeling empty. You’ll know exactly what you can do, and why.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-30-2023, 07:27 AM
May 30
More you can do
What does opportunity look like? What does opportunity feel like?
Opportunity is the realization that there’s more you can do. It’s something that’s not at all difficult to see.
There’s more you can do. There are ways, easily within your reach, that you can make a positive difference in the world.
You have knowledge, experience, resources, connections, awareness, energy, time, and passion. And with it all, there’s more you can do.
With life as it is, in this place, on this day, in your particular situation, there’s more you can do. Consider what that could be, and think of the new value it will create.
Opportunity is always present. Because there’s always more you can do.
— Ralph Marston
bluidkiti
05-31-2023, 07:04 AM
May 31
No matter what
Life can be difficult at many times, in all sorts of ways, on multiple levels. Even so, it’s probably not nearly as bad as you’ve been led to believe.
There are problems in this world, as there have always been. Yet you and everyone else are highly skilled at working through all kinds of problems.
Compared to the problems, an even greater number of positive possibilities exist. And as those possibilities are realized they become even more numerous.
For centuries, worry and fear have been used by those who seek profit and power. It’s good to frequently remind yourself that you don’t always have to buy what they’re selling.
Chances are, there’s something good, and positive, and uplifting you can do right now, right here. Chances are, the sun will come up tomorrow and you can enjoy more goodness, perhaps share it with someone you care about.
Troubles will persist, just as they always have. And you can continue to live with purpose, with joy, with truth and meaning, no matter what.
— Ralph Marston
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