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Old 08-29-2013, 10:41 AM   #1
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Default The Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions

THE TWELVE STEPS

1 We admitted we were powerless over alcohol ----- that our lives had become unmanageable.
2 Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3 Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4 Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5 Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6 Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7 Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8 Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9 Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10 Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11 Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12 Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

The Steps are reprinted with permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.

The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of AA, as adapted by Al-Anon, are used with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Such permission does not mean that A.A. is in any way affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only ? use of the Steps and Traditions in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, or in any other non-A.A. context, does not imply otherwise.



AL-ANON'S 12 TRADITIONS

1 Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.
2 For our group purpose there is but one authority - a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
3 The relatives of alcoholics, when gathered together for mutual aid, may call themselves an Al-Anon Family Group, provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliation. The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.
4 Each group should be autonomous, except in matters affecting another group or Al-Anon or AA as a whole.
5 Each Al-Anon Family Group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps of AA ourselves, by encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives, and by welcomin g and giving comfort to families of alcoholics.
6 Our Al-Anon Family Groups ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. Although a separate enti ty, we should always cooperate with Alcoholics Anonymous.
7 Every Group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
8 Al-Anon Twelfth-Step work should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
9 Our Groups, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
10 The Al-Anon Family Groups have no opinion on outside issues; hence our name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
11 Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, TV and films. We need guard with special care the anonymity of all AA members.
12 Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.



The Traditions are reprinted with permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.

The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of AA, as adapted by Al-Anon, are used with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Such permission does not mean that A.A. is in any way affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only ? use of the Steps and Traditions in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, or in any other non-A.A. context, does not imply otherwise.



The Twelve Steps with Short Version Meaning
All Al-Anon is work based on what is known as the Twelve Steps, derived from the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. They have been altered in only the few details necessary for our purpose.
We study the Twelve Steps to help us meet and solve our present problems related to alcoholism. We learn constructive ways of dealing with the difficulties it creates for us so we are gradually able, one day at a time, to work them out.
In a broad sense, the Steps are a spiritual philosophy with some of the elements of the Golden Rule, the Ten Commandments, the Sermon on the Mount and the centuries and teachings of Oriental philosophers.
In their simple words, the Twelve Steps encompass a magnificent body of ideas whose study will be rewarded by the enrichment of our characters and personalities, a deeper understanding of our relationship to our fellow-man, and a sustaining confidence and serenity that will help us to live more fully each day.

The Twelve Steps
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol- that our lives had become unmanageable.
To admit that we cannot control the life or actions of a dear one may be difficult, but this first step is essential if we are to solve our problem. Once we can admit our helplessness, we will stop trying to compel the drinker to stop drinking; we know we cannot. We will stop nagging, appealing, complaining; we know it is useless. We will turn out attention to the task of managing our own lives, which have become unmanageable because of our fruitless and frustrated efforts to "work on someone else."
2. Came to believe that a power greater then ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Note the tremendous meaning in this Step. We admit that the situation we have been trying to control and direct has distorted our own viewpoint. At this crossroads of desperation, we believe we can and must find spiritual help from a Power greater than ours. To most of us this Power is known as God, but each one of us is free to use his own concept.
It is this Power that will restore us to a rational frame of mind so we can deal with the havoc wrought in our lives by alcoholism.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand Him.
Observe how logically one step leads to the next: We admit that we are powerless over alcohol, that we, of ourselves, were not able to cope with our problems, that we believed help is available to us, and now, in the Third Step , we turn our problems over to the care of God as we understand Him. And not only our problems, but our whole lives. As we make this decision, we take on the mantle of humility, for without it, we would not be ready to follow guidance. It is hard to bring ourselves to realize that we cannot manage our lives without guidance, but this is the essence of spiritual growth.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Now that we have tried to learn submissiveness to a Higher Power, there is action to be taken, work to be done- by us. We have to search ourselves for the truth about what we really are like- the good qualities, as well as the faults.
Facing up to faults is not easy; we are all given to justifying ourselves, finding good reasons for our attitudes and actions. But this is to be an Honest inventory. Have we blamed every crisis, every problem, on the alcoholic? Do we feel sorry for ourselves, resentful of what life has done to us, certain that none of it was our fault? Are we intolerant, bitter, despairing, suspicious? Whatever negative qualities we unearth in this " fearless moral inventory" we will try to eradicate.
We must be just as honest in evaluating our good qualities; this is the foundation we are going to build on!
5. Admitted to God, ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
Once again we have admitted to ourselves such faults as we can discover, we still find great comfort in acknowledging them to God and asking his help inn removing them. There is further relief in talking it all over with an understanding friend (Sponsor), Doctor, Minister, or the members of your Al-Anon Group.
As we share our problems, the weight we have been carrying seems to lighten and as we learn to face ourselves as we really are. At this point our thinking begins to clear up. We find understanding from people who have similar problems; we trust them because we know they will keep our confidences. We have a feeling of belonging; we are no longer alone.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This process is, in effect, a continuation of the Fifth Step. You will need spiritual support for your program of removing the faults that are causing you so much trouble, and the way to get it is to turn to God for help.
The keynote of the Sixth Step is the phrase: "Were entirely ready."
Note also that this step specifies all defects of character. There may be some that are so deeply ingrained that we may not even recognize them as faults, or some (such as self-pity) that we're so attached to that we can hardly face letting them go.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
Again we turn to our Higher Power. Handing over to Him the problem of the faults we are now so eager to get rid of. We ask for guidance, not just once, but repeatedly throughout each day, reminding ourselves of the tremendous task we have before us. The key word is "Humbly", our acknowledgment that we need a Power greater then ourselves. Humility will help us see ourselves in true perspective and keep our minds open to truth.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
We can do grave harm to others when we allow ourselves to become totally absorbed by the alcoholic problem in our lives. It distorts not only our attitude and behavior toward the drinker, but to other members of the family, and to our friends. We may harm them by over action, by neglect, or by overlooking their needs.
If, consciously or unconsciously. We carry this burden of guilt, it must be wiped out by making amends. Only then can we find peace of mind. and a more rational pattern of thought and behavior.
It might be a sincere apology for a wrong or slight; it may be a generous and friendly act to compensate for an injustice or a neglect. The Willingness to make amends often creates the opportunity to do so in a natural and unembarrassed way, and this leads to spiritual growth.
9. Made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
It takes careful study of the circumstances to decide whether amends can be made without doing further damage. It depends on the people involved, the nature of the situation and perhaps even what changes have taken place if a long time has elapsed. Consultation with a trusted confidante (Sponsor) will be helpful.
The importance of the Ninth Step is to make amends if it is possible and right so do so when all factors have been considered. However, honesty prohibits using this choice as an alibi for not making amends when they could and should be made.
10. Continued to take a personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
As we fulfill the suggestions of nine previous steps, we find that we are making progress, but self-evaluation, the personal inventory, must be a continuing daily process. We should now have developed to the point where we can at once recognize unkind or ill-advised behavior on our part and correct it at once.
Since our concern is with the alcoholic, and our reactions to problems caused by the drinking, we must be especially careful not to return to our old habits of nagging, complaining, directing, self- righteousness, or whatever our usual pattern happened to be. What we do and say in relation to the alcoholic can influence him for better or worse.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as wee understand Him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out.
We are striving for a "spiritual awakening" in which we become sharply aware of our Higher Power. As we understand our problems more clearly, each day brings renewed faith and courage. As we meditate on this new way of life, we realize that we are guided through each successive twenty- four hours, and we come to feel His guiding power.
Each morning we ask God as we understand Him to guide us and give us strength and courage to carry out his will; at the end of each day we thank Him for His help.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

This is the triumphant culmination- the summeay- of the Steps. This is the recognition that we have achieved a deep awareness of God and our relation to Him, and that we are ready to continue the work by bringing to others the light we have found.
These Steps work for those who need and want them. They can help us find an answer to all our problems. The more we put into the program, the more we get out of it. Only when we practice these principles in all our affairs, and give unselfishly of what we have receive, do we find the peace of mind we seek.


Into Action


On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental facuilties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives.

In thinking about our new day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or decision. We relax and take it easy. We don't struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for awhile. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperierienced and having just made concious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find out that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plan of inspiration. We come to rely upon it.

We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be shown all through the day what our next step is to be, that we be given whatever we need to take care of such problems. We ask especially for freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no requests for ourselves only. We may ask for ourselves however, if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends.
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"No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy
AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K.
When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt
We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time!
God says that each of us is worth loving.
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