One of the greatest gifts of recovery. I picked up a pamphlet today at my Al-Anon group to remind me.
Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people
Not to allow ourselves to be used or abused by others in the interest of another's recovery
Not to manipulate situations so others will eat, go to bed, get up, pay bills, not drink, or behave as we see fit
Not to cover up for another's mistakes or misdeeds
Not to create a crisis
Not to prevent a crisis if it is in the natural course of events.
By learning to focus on ourselves, our attitudes and well-being improve. we allow the alcoholics in our lives to experience the consequences of their own actions.
Needed to be reminded of this. It is easy to know we need to detach, but we need to know what we need to detach from and how to detach.
