D is for Dumb. I was looking all over for this section and couldn't find it. Just because I feel dumb, doesn't mean I am. A guy said to me in early recovery, Jo you may be a lot of things, but stupid isn't one of them. I was always beating myself up and calling myself names and never gave myself any slack. No one beat me up more than I did myself, even though I was in two abusive marriages and had parents who were mentally, emotionally, and my mother was some times physically abusive.