To a newcomer, walking into an AA meeting can sometimes seem like entering a foreign country with its own language. Strange quotes, acronyms, and catch-phrases are casually thrown about in normal conversation. To someone who has never heard them before, it's often very hard to follow along. It seems that what is needed is an AA to English dictionary for those just beginning in the program. This page is the start of one attempt at such a dictionary.
The following is a relatively short list of unusual terms sometimes heard around AA meetings. Please keep in mind the definition accompanying each term is only one persons interpretation and is approximate at best. These definitions were taken, adapted and/or paraphrased from many sources but particularly from the books, Alcoholics Anonymous, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and Getting Started in AA, by Hamilton B.
A
AA Clubs:
Facilities
available for AA group meetings.
AA General Service
Board (a.k.a. the Trustees)
A
board composed of fourteen AA trustees and seven nonalcoholic trustees
that serves to safeguard AA's Traditions and funds. The board has the
responsibility of overseeing the General Service Office (GSO), AA World
Services, Inc., and The AA Grapevine, Inc.
AA General
Service Conference:
A
conference linking the AA groups to the General Service Office and
Board. It serves as the group conscience for AA as a whole. Although
the conference only meets for six days a year, the 135 conference
members are active in conference affairs throughout the year.
Conference members are elected as representatives from each of
ninety-one area assemblies. The assemblies themselves are elected by
General Service Representatives (GSRs) from all AA groups.
AA General
Service Office (GSO):
The
'main library' of AA's shared knowledge and experience. It helps AA
fulfill its primary purpose by:
1) providing service, information, and AA experience to groups worldwide;
2) publishing and distributing AA books, flyers, fact sheets and pamphlets;
3) supporting the activities of the General Service Board;
4) carrying forward recommendations of the General Service Conference;
5) dealing with the general public.
AA General Service
Representative (GSR)
A
person who serves as an individual group's link to the General Service
Conference. Sometimes called 'the guardians of the Traditions', GSR's
are elected form each AA group to serve on area committees. Delegates
from these area committees are then elected to serve as members of the
General Service Conference.
A.A. Grapevine,
The:
The
monthly periodical for AA members available by subscription. 'The
Grapevine', as it is usually called, consists of a monthly calendar of
AA events, regular features, and special articles on issues and topics
of interest to AA members. It is sometimes called 'our meeting in
print'.
AA Group:
Any
two or more alcoholics gathered together for the purpose of sobriety
provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliation.
AA Preamble:
A
statement which briefly explains the purpose of AA. The preamble is
read at the beginning of most AA meetings. Is is based on a portion of
the foreword to the first edition of the Big Book.
AA World
Services, Inc.:
AA
World Services, Inc. is a nonprofit corporation which manages the AA
General Service Office, publishes all AA literature and serves groups
in foreign countries that do not have national headquarters of their
own.
AA's Primary
Purpose:
To
stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.
A Vision for
You:
The
title of chapter 11 of the Big Book. This phrase is often used to refer
to the last three paragraphs of chapter 11 and is sometimes read at AA
meetings.
ABC's, The:
From
a portion of Chapter 5 of the Big Book. These are three basic concepts
for AA's to master before progressing to Step Three:
a) that we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives;
b) that probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism;
c) that God could and would if He were sought.
Abstinence:
Not
drinking any alcohol at all. Abstinence, AAs believe, is the only
treatment for the disease of alcoholism.
Acceptance:
One
of AA's primary principles. AA members strive to accept the things in
life which we can not change, including our own alcoholism and
inability to drink normally.
Alcoholic
Grandiosity:
This
phrase refers to an alcoholic's insistence on having his or her own way
regardless of the will of the Higher Power or the demands of reality.
It is self-will run riot.
Alcoholic
Insanity:
An
untrue belief held by some alcoholics that they can control their
drinking or that somehow, someday that will be able to drink normally.
Alcoholism:
While
there is no formal 'AA definition' of alcoholism, most of us agree
that, for us, it could be described as a physical compulsion, coupled
with a mental obsession. We mean that we had a distinct physical desire
to consume alcohol beyond our capacity to control it, and in defiance
of all the rules of common sense. We not only had an abnormal craving
for alcohol, but we frequently yielded to it at the worst possible
times. We did not know when (or how) to stop drinking.
The American Medical Association formally recognized alcoholism as a disease in 1972. In 1956, it had classified alcoholism as a 'treatable illness.' Alcoholism results from a genetic predisposition working in combination with psychological and environmental factors. There is no cure. Abstinence is the only treatment.
Definition of
Alcoholism
Approved by the Boards of Directors of the National Council
on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence, Inc. (February 3, 1990) and the
American Society of Addiction Medicine (February 25, 1990).
Alcoholism is a
primary, chronic disease with genetic, psychosocial, and environmental
factors influencing its development and manifestations. The disease is
often progressive and fatal. It is characterized by continuous or
periodic: impaired control over drinking, preoccupation with the drug
alcohol, use of alcohol despite adverse consequences, and distortions
in thinking, most notably denial.
Primary refers to the nature of alcoholism as a disease entity
in addition to and separate from other path physiologic states which
may be associated with it. Primary suggests that alcoholism, as an
addiction, is not a symptom of an underlying disease state.
Disease means an involuntary disability. It represents the sum
of the abnormal phenomena displayed by a group of individuals. These
phenomena are associated with a specified common set of characteristics
by which these individuals differ from the norm, and which places them
at a disadvantage.
Often progressive and fatal means that the disease persists over
time and that physical, emotional, and social changes are often
cumulative and may progress as drinking continues.
Alcoholism causes premature death through overdose, organic
complications involving the brain, liver, heart and many other organs,
and by contributing to suicide, homicide, motor vehicle crashes, and
other traumatic events.
Impaired control means the inability to limit alcohol use or to
consistently limit on any drinking occasion the duration of the
episode, the quantity consumed, and/or the behavioral consequences of
drinking.
Preoccupation in association with alcohol use indicates excessive,
focused attention given to the drug alcohol, its effects, and/or its
use. The relative value thus assigned to alcohol by the individual
often leads to a diversion of energies away from important life
concerns.
Adverse consequences are alcohol-related problems or impairments in
such areas as: physical health (e.g., alcohol withdrawal syndromes,
liver disease, gastritis, anemia, neurological disorders);
psychological functioning (e.g., impairments in cognition, changes in
mood and behavior); interpersonal functioning (e.g., marital problems
and child abuse, impaired social relationships); occupational
functioning (e.g., scholastic or job problems); and legal, financial,
or spiritual problems.
Denial is used here not only in the psychoanalytic sense of a
single psychological defense mechanism disavowing the significance of
events, but more broadly to include a range of psychological maneuvers
designed to reduce awareness of the fact that alcohol use is the cause
of an individual's problems rather than a solution to those problems.
Denial becomes an integral part of the disease and a major obstacle to
recovery.
Alcoholism as a
Progressive Disease:
The
term 'progressive' is used to describe alcoholism because, as a rule,
it only gets worse over time.
Alcoholism as a
Threefold Illness:
The
Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous describes alcoholism as a disease of
the body, mind and spirit.
Alcoholism Cure:
This
is a fantasy. There is no known cure for alcoholism. But there is a
treatment; abstinence. Abstinence is made possible one day at a time
through membership in AA.
Amends:
Doing
what we can to repair the damage that our past behavior has caused.
Making amends is an essential part of Twelve Step recovery. In
accordance with AA's Ninth Step and Tenth Step, we make direct amends
to people we have harmed in the past and to those we continue to harm.
An Easier,
Softer Way:
This
phrase is taken from chapter 5 of the Big Book, 'We thought we could
find an easier, softer way. But we could not.' Some AA members attempt
to find an easier, softer way to recover from alcoholism than having to
work the Twelve Steps.
Anger,
Justifiable:
Anger
that we feel justified in holding on to because of the circumstances.
According to the Big Book, there is no justification for remaining
angry about anything. Often we 'justify' the anger so we don't have to
look at ourselves and our own part in creating it. The Twelve and
Twelve reminds us, 'It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are
disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us.
If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also. But are
there no exceptions to this rule' What about 'justifiable' anger? If
somebody cheats us, aren't we entitled to be mad' Can't we be properly
angry with self-righteous folk? For us of AA, these are dangerous
exceptions. We have found that justified anger ought to be left to
those better qualified to handle it. Anger, though inevitable on
occasion, should be felt and then released as soon as possible lest it
turn into a resentment. When someone offends, we should say to
ourselves 'this is a sick person, too. How can I be helpful?'
Anniversary
(a.k.a. Birthday):
The
anniversary of the date on which an AA member stopped drinking. The
term 'anniversary' is generally used in the East and Midwest, and the
term 'birthday' is used in the West and Southwest to mean the same
thing.
Anonymity:
The
AA concept of anonymity is expressed in this saying, 'Who you see here,
what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here.' Anonymity
is so important to AA that the word 'Anonymous' is part of its name. To
break anonymity is to reveal one?s own membership or someone else's
membership in AA or to repeat something that was said by someone in an
AA meeting. There are only four reasons for breaking you own anonymity:
1) to help yourself stay sober; 2) to help someone else stay sober; 3)
someone in your life has a need to know; 4) to avoid telling a lie.
Antabuse:
An
oral prescription drug that makes a person violently ill if he drinks
alcohol. Antabuse is the brand name for disulfiram.
Any Length:
This
phrase refers to an AA member's willingness to 'go to any length' to
stay sober. It means being willing to do whatever is necessary to
maintain sobriety and expresses the principle of putting sobriety
first. The phrase is taken from chapter 5 of the Big Book, 'If you have
decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to
get it- then you are ready to take certain steps.'
B
Babies:
This
term affectionately refers to people new to AA.
Balance:
The
term refers to the AA goal of achieving emotional, mental and spiritual
balance as a result of working the Twelve Steps.
Big Book:
The
nickname given to the book Alcoholics Anonymous. So named, because of
the unusual thickness of the paper it was originally printed on.
Although the book is now smaller, the nickname stuck and is, in fact,
registered.
Big Book Study
Meeting:
An
AA meeting devoted to the study of the Big Book.
Birthday:
(See
Anniversary)
Blackout:
A
period of alcohol-induced amnesia extending from a few hours to a few
days during heavy usage. While in a blackout, a person may appear to
behave somewhat 'normally' but have no recollection of it later.
Bondage of Self:
Alcoholic
self-centeredness and self-will. The phrase is taken from the Third
Step Prayer in chapter five of the Big Book, 'Relieve me of the bondage
of self, that I may better do Thy will.'
Box 4-5-9:
The
AA General Service Office's newsletter which is the GSO's primary means
of communication with the fellowship.
Breaking
Anonymity:
To
reveal one's own membership or someone else's membership in AA or to
repeat something that was said by someone in an AA meeting. There are
only four reasons for breaking anonymity at a personal level:
1) it will help you stay sober; 2) it will help someone else stay sober;
3) people in our lives need to know; 4) to avoid telling a lie.
C
Cafeteria Style:
A
reference to a saying borrowed from Al-Anon, 'meetings are like
cafeterias; you can take what you like and leave the rest.' At least as
far as AA is concerned, there should be a few basic exceptions to this
rule for those who wish to stay sober.
Came to Believe:
This
phrase is taken from AA's Second Step, 'Came to believe that a Power
greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.' It is sometimes
broken down this way, 'Came, Came to, Came to Believe.' First, we came
physically to AA meetings. After some time, we came to (our senses that
is) and gave up our alcoholic delusions. And finally, we came to
believe that we could be restored to sanity by a Higher Power.
Care of God:
The
phrase is taken from AA's Third Step in which we 'made a decision to
turn our wills and our lives over to the care of God as we understood
Him.' The Twelve and Twelve states, 'the effectiveness of the whole AA
program will rest upon how well and earnestly we have tried to come to
'a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as
we understood Him'.
Carry the
Message:
This
expression is taken from AA's Twelfth Step, 'Having had a spiritual
awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry the message
to the message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all
our affairs.' It is also mentioned in the Fifth Tradition, 'Each group
has but one primary purpose- to carry its message to the alcoholic who
still suffers.' It is the responsibility of each AA member to carry the
message of recovery to the alcoholic who still suffers. Helping another
alcoholic is one of the primary ways in which we stay sober.
Cash Register
Honesty:
A
technical kind of honesty that means we don't steal. It is often
compared to another, deeper kind of self-honesty and
honesty-with-others about who we are which is necessary for recovery.
Central Office:
A
local coordinating office for AA groups. It also acts as a point of
contact for the general public and as a clearinghouse for information
on AA meetings and activities. In some cities (like here in Houston),
it is called 'Intergroup.'
Chapter Five:
The
reference is to chapter 5, 'How it Works,' of the Big Book. Chapter 5
explains how AA works as a program of recovery. It lists the Twelve
Steps and discusses in detail the first four Steps. A portion of the
chapter is sometimes read after the preamble at the beginning of AA
meetings.
Character
Defects:
The
defects of character which we try to identify in our Fourth Step
inventory and which we try to eliminate as part of our recovery
program. In the 'searching and fearless moral inventory' that we
conduct in the Fourth Step, we identify a list of character defects in
ourselves. In the Fifth Step, we admit these defects to God, to
ourselves, and to another human being. In the Sixth through Tenth
Steps, we try to eliminate these defects with God's help and to make
amends for the things we have done wrong.
Chip System:
The
custom followed by some AA groups of handing out small medallions
called 'chips' to mark various anniversaries of AA member's sobriety
dates. Many AA members, especially newcomers, carry a chip with them as
a constant reminder of their commitment to stay sober.
Chips:
Small
medallions commemorating various lengths of sobriety; i.e., 1, 2, 3, 6
and 9 months; years and multiples of years. The first chip which is
usually given out to a newcomer is called a 'desire' chip. A desire
chip signifies the recipient's desire to stay sober for the next 24
hours.
Civilian:
AA
slang for a non-alcoholic.
Closed Meeting:
An
AA meeting that is 'closed' to nonalcoholics. Only alcoholics and those
who think they may have a problem with alcohol are allowed to attend.
Clubs:
(See
AA Clubs)
Conference-Approved
Literature:
Literature
that has been approved for publication by the AA General Service
Conference. (Incidentally, neither this page nor this website has
conference approval. Nor will it ever, I suspect)
Confidentiality:
Whatever is said in an AA meeting is strictly confidential and
should not be repeated outside that meeting.
Conscious
Contact:
This
phrase is taken from AA's Eleventh Step, 'Sought through prayer and
meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood
Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to
carry that out.' Keeping in touch with our Higher Power through prayer
and meditation. Maintaining conscious contact with a Power greater than
ourselves is a key element in AA recovery. Prayer and meditation are
'our principal means of conscious contact with God.'
Constitutionally
Incapable of Being Honest:
This
phrase is taken from chapter 5 of the Big Book, 'Those who do not
recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to
this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally
incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates.
They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are
naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which
demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average.' The
ability to be honest with oneself is essential to recovery.
Contempt Prior
to Investigation:
This
phrase appears in a quotation of Herbert Spencer's contained in
appendix 2 of the Big Book, 'There is a principle which is a bar
against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which
cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance- that principle is
contempt prior to investigation.' The phase is often used as a warning
against being closed to new ideas. Open-mindedness is an essential part
of recovery.
Controlled
Drinking:
This
phrase refers to a person's decision to restrict the number of drinks
he or she has to some predetermined limit. It is sometimes used in
reference to alcoholics, but it does not apply to them. Alcoholics can
not control their drinking problem by limiting the number of drinks
they have as an alternative to abstinence. The Big Book states, 'We
alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to control our
drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control.' It
goes on to say,'The idea that somehow, someday, he will control and
enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker.
The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into
the gates of insanity or death.'
Courage to
Change:
A
phrase taken from the serenity prayer, 'God, grant me the serenity to
accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I
can, and the wisdom to know the difference.' Recovery is all about
change, and change is all about courage. That's why those in recovery
pray for the 'courage to change.' Courage is not the absence of fear,
but the overcoming of it. Fear is a natural part of the disease of
alcoholism; overcoming fear is a natural part of recovery. When we no
longer fear fear itself, we begin to recover.
Cross-Addiction
(a.k.a. Dual Addiction):
Being
dependent upon two different substances at the same time. AA welcomes
those who are cross-addicted as long as one of those substances is
alcohol. AA has a singleness of purpose- recovery from alcoholism. AA's
third tradition states, 'The only requirement for membership is a
desire to stop drinking.' Therefore, if you have a desire to stop
drinking, regardless of any other problems you may have, you are
welcome to join AA. Discussion at AA meetings, however, should be
limited to topics directly related to your alcoholism and nothing else.
Cross-Talk:
When
one AA member directly addresses another member during the sharing part
of an AA meeting and offers advice. In AA, we are expected to share our
experience, strength and hope with one another rather than offer advice
or instruction. Therefore, it is against AA customs to engage in
cross-talk during an AA meeting.
Cunning,
Baffling, Powerful!:
This
expression comes from chapter 5 of the Big Book, 'Remember that we deal
with alcohol- cunning, baffling, powerful! Without help it is too much
for us.'
D
Daily Inventory:
Step
Ten says 'We continued to take a personal inventory...'. This is the
same kind of inventory we took in Step Four, except it deals with
recent events only. Our goal is to reduce the cumulative damage our
character defects cause; keeping us on an even keel. Some AA member's
feel that this is the only step that can be taken 'out of order', that
is, practiced on a daily basis as soon as you enter the program. The
thinking here is to stop adding to our problems and start practicing do
things differently. Again this is only an opinion.
Daily Reprieve:
The
word 'reprieve' means 'a temporary relief.' We have a daily reprieve
from the symptoms of our alcoholism contingent upon the maintenance of
our spiritual fitness. This phrase appears in chapter 6 of the Big
Book, 'We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily
reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.'
Defects of
Character:
See
'Character Defects'
Denial:
A
person's refusal to admit or accept that he or she is an alcoholic;
denial is one of the symptoms of the disease of alcoholism. It is this
symptom that makes recovery so difficult, because denial must be
overcome for recovery to take place. Denial is never completely
overcome, however, and must be guarded against during recovery. There
is a saying in AA, 'Alcoholism is a disease which convinces you that
you do not have it.'
Design for
Living:
The
phase comes from chapter 2 of the Big Book: 'A new life has been given
to us or, if you prefer, 'a design for living' that really works.' The
phrase refers to the AA program of recovery and to the new life that it
offers alcoholics.
Desire Chip (a.k.a.
Twenty-four Hour Chip):
A medallion given out at AA meetings to anyone who has a 'desire' to
stop drinking for the next 24 hours.
Detox:
Slang
for 'detoxification,' the process by which some alcoholics withdraw
from the use of alcohol. Also used in reference to a detoxification
center.
Discussion
Meeting:
An
AA meeting in which a topic is suggested and individuals discuss their
experience, strength and hope in relation to that topic.
Double Winner:
An
AA member who is also a member of Al-Anon.
Dr. Bob:
The
common nickname for Robert Holbrook Smith M.D., cofounder of AA.
Drinking Dream:
or Drunk Dream
A recovering alcoholic's sleeping dream in which he or she drinks
again. No one knows exactly what a drinking dream means, but it can be
very disturbing to the alcoholic in recovery.
Drunk-a-logue:
That
portion of an AA member's story that deals with the drinking period of
his or her life.
Dry:
Being
abstinent from alcohol. To those in AA, however, being 'dry' is just
one small part of being 'sober'. Sobriety is a way of life based on
spiritual principles. To remain dry without changing intellectually,
emotionally and spiritually, is to be dangerously close to the next
drink. The Big Book says, 'We feel that elimination of our drinking is
but a beginning.'
Dry Drunk
(a.k.a. Dry Bender):
A
condition of returning to one's old alcoholic thinking and behavior
without actually having taken a drink.
Dual Addiction:
See
'Cross-Addiction'
Dual Diagnosis:
An
AA member who has an emotional or psychiatric disorder in addition to
alcoholism. The other diagnosis may be major depression,
manic-depression (bipolar disorder), personality disorder, panic
disorder, and so on. Bill Wilson, AA's cofounder, was dually diagnosed
with depression.
E
Easing God Out (a.k.a. Edging God
Out):
This is what some AAs claim the acronym E.G.O. stands for. It is a
reminder that it is God's will, not our own which guides our life in
sobriety. When self-centered ego returns we have rescinded our decision
to take the Third Step. Instead of 'turning it over,' we are 'taking it
back.'
Enabling:
A
term used to describe overly compassionate behavior toward an
alcoholic. This works against a drinking alcoholic's recovery because
it keeps him or her from having to deal with the consequences of his or
her behavior. Examples of enabling are making excuses for the
alcoholic, or cleaning up after one of his or her 'episodes'. The
alcoholic needs to face all the unpleasant consequences of his or her
drinking if he or she is to recover.
Ex-Alcoholic:
There
is no such thing. In AA we might call ourselves ex-drunks as we do not
drink anymore but we are still alcoholics. There is no known cure for
the disease of alcoholism; even alcoholics in recovery are still
alcoholics. They are simply nondrinking alcoholics.
Experience,
Strength and Hope:
The
phrase appears in the AA preamble, 'Alcoholics Anonymous is a
fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and
hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help
others to recover from alcoholism.' When we share in AA about our
recovery from alcoholism, we are expected to share our experience,
strength and hope. We should not offer advice, instruction, or therapy.
F
Faith without
Works is Dead:
This
phrase appears in chapter 6 of the Big Book, 'Now we need more action,
without which we find that 'Faith without works is dead.'' This quote
is often used to remind us that AA is a program of action.
Fellowship, the:
A
common nickname by those in AA for Alcoholics Anonymous.
Forgiveness:
The
act of giving up feelings of resentment toward someone. Forgiveness of
those who have harmed us is an essential part of Steps Four and Five.
Fourth Step
Inventory:
The
'searching and fearless moral inventory' suggested by AA's Fourth Step.
The Fourth Step inventory is always done in writing.
G
Geographical
Cure (a.k.a Geographic
):
While still drinking, an effort to cure our alcoholism by getting a
'fresh start' in a new location. It doesn't work. There is a saying
around AA, 'Wherever you go, there you are.'
God as We
Understand Him:
See
'Higher Power.'
God of Our
Understanding:
See
'Higher Power.
God's Time:
The
expression reminds us that the events of the world unfold according to
God's time, not our own. When we grow impatient because the things we
want are not happening fast enough to suit us, we try to remember that
it is not up to us to set the timetable for God's events.
Grapevine:
See
'AA Grapevine.'
Gratitude List:
A
written list of all the things for which we are grateful. When they are
feeling scared, depressed, or self-pitying, some alcoholics make a
gratitude list. It is usually effective in counteracting depression and
self-pity.
Group
Conscience:
The
mechanism through which an AA group makes decisions about matters
affecting the group as a whole. The group makes decisions expressed
through a meeting held for that purpose immediately before or after a
regular AA meeting. Every member of the group is entitled to vote, and
everyone is a member who so declares himself or herself.
Gut-Level
Honesty:
See
'Rigorous Honesty.'
H
Half Measures:
This
phrase is taken from chapter 5 of the Big Book, 'Half measures availed
us nothing. We stood at the turning point.' It is a reminder that an
'easier, softer way' that tries to short-cut the Twelve Steps won't
bring us the quality of recovery we seek. The phrase also reminds us to
put our sobriety first.
H.A.L.T.:
An
acronym that stands for 'Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired.' It is in
these states when our resolve is the weakest. The acronym reminds us to
always try to avoid these states in order to protect our recovery.
Happy, Joyous
and Free:
The
quotation is taken from chapter 9 of the Big Book, 'We are sure God
wants us to be happy, joyous and free. We cannot subscribe to the
belief that this life is a vale of tears, though it once was just that
for many of us.' To be happy, joyous and free is one of the goals (and
rewards) of our recovery from alcoholism.
High Bottom
Drunk:
An
alcoholic entering AA who has maintained most of the trappings of
'success'; a family, a home, a job, a car, reputation, health, etc..
Almost everyone entering AA has hit some kind of emotional bottom, but
for some the social, legal, or financial bottom may be relatively high.
The more one has managed to retain upon entering AA, the higher his or
her bottom is said to be.
Higher Power:
A
self-defined Power greater than ourselves to which we ultimately turn
for assistance and guidance in our sober lives. In our drinking days,
alcohol was the Higher Power. In sobriety, we choose a different kind
of Power to fulfill our purposes. Since AA is non-sectarian, the
definition of 'Higher Power' is left entirely to the individual AA
member.
Hitting Bottom:
Reaching
such a state of utter hopelessness that we become willing to admit
complete defeat in dealing with our alcoholism. In such a state we
become 'teachable,' and are willing to do whatever is necessary to
achieve sobriety. The bottom we hit at the end of our drinking days is
usually emotional and spiritual. It may or may not involve other
complications such as poor health, financial and legal problems.
Home Group:
The
group that an AA member attends regularly and calls home. Our home
group is our strongest link to the AA fellowship.
Homer:
A
housebound or handicapped AA member. Since homers can attend few AA
meetings, they rely on the Big Book, telephone, or written
correspondence to stay sober.
H.O.W.:
This
acronym stands for Honesty, Open-Mindedness, and Willingness. These are
the keys to recovery. Without openness, we won't listen to the
principles of recovery offered to us. Without willingness, we won't act
on what we hear. And without honesty, we won't see the problems that
have to be faced and overcame for recovery to take place.
Humility:
'Perfect
humility,' Bill Wilson wrote, 'would be a full willingness, in all
times and places, to find and to do the will of God.' 'Without some
degree of humility, no alcoholic can stay sober at all. Nearly all AA's
have found, too, that unless they develop much more of this precious
quality than may be required just for sobriety, they still haven't much
chance of becoming truly happy.'
I
I Am
Responsible:
This
expression comes from the Responsibility Declaration adopted at AA's
1965 International Convention. The declaration reads, 'I am
responsible. When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help, I want the
hand of AA always to be there. And for that I am responsible.'
Identification:
Identification
is one of the ways in which we overcome the denial associated with our
alcoholism. When an alcoholic in recovery honestly tells his or her
story, and we can identify with him or her, our denial is momentarily
overcome. This discovery formed one of the fundamental principles of
AA: that one alcoholic could help another alcoholic stay sober.
Insanity:
AA's
Second Step states we 'came to believe that a Power greater than
ourselves could restore us to sanity.' Sometimes in AA we hear insanity
defined as 'doing the same thing over and over but expecting different
results.'
Intergroup:
A
local coordinating office for AA groups. It also acts as a point of
contact for the general public and as a clearinghouse for information
on AA meetings and activities. In some cities it is called the 'Central
Office.'
Intervention:
The
process by which family members and/or friends of an alcoholic get
together and confront the alcoholic about the negative effects of his
behavior. The goal of an intervention is to break through the
alcoholics denial of his problem and to motivate him to seek help.
Intervention is often a means of assisting an alcoholic to hit his or
her 'bottom' long before he or she would naturally.
Into Action:
This
is the title of chapter 6 of the Big Book. AA is a program of action.
Good intentions, intellectualizing, and theorizing aid the disease and
not our recovery from it- if they are divorced from Action.
L
Lack of Power:
This
phrase comes from chapter 4 of the Big Book, 'Lack of power, that was
our dilemma. We had to find a power by which we could live, and it had
to be a Power greater than ourselves.' As alcoholics, our central
problem is powerlessness over alcohol. In order to overcome alcoholism,
we must first admit that we are powerless over it. If we admit to that
powerlessness, we are given the power we need.
Legacies:
See
'Three Legacies of AA.'
Low Bottom
Drunk:
An
alcoholic entering AA who has lost 'everything;' house, car, family,
job, health, etc.. Almost everyone entering AA has hit some kind of
emotional or spiritual bottom but for some, the extrinsic circumstances
may be particularly low. The more one has lost upon entering AA, the
lower his or her bottom is said to be.
M
Maximum Service:
This
phrase comes from chapter 6 of the Big Book, 'Our real purpose is to
fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about us.'
How do we do this' The AA Preamble states, 'Our primary purpose is to
stay sober and to help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.' The Fifth
Tradition goes on to state, 'Each group has but one primary purpose 'to
carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.' Therefore, we in
AA are of maximum service to God and others by staying sober and
carrying the message to the suffering alcoholic.
Meeting in
Print:
See
'AA Grapevine.'
Meetings:
An
AA meeting is any two or more alcoholics gathered together for the
purpose of sobriety- provided, that as a group, they have no other
affiliation. At the heart of AA recovery is the meetings. It is here
that the members share their experience, strength, and hope with one
another and find recovery
N
NaltrExone:
A
prescription drug that reduces the physical craving for alcohol in some
alcoholics. To be effective, it must be combined with a regular
counseling program including membership in AA. It is marketed under the
trade name ReVia.
Ninety in
Ninety:
This
expression refers to the suggestion to newcomers that they make at
least one meeting a day for the first three months of their sobriety.
O
Old Timer:
An
AA member who has been continuously sober for a significant period of
time. The definition of 'significant' is open to interpretation and
varies widely. There are two basic prerequisites, however, for becoming
an old timer in AA: 1) Don't drink; 2) Don't die.
One Day at a
Time:
This
slogan describes one of AA's primary strategies for staying sober. For
many alcoholics, the concept of permanent abstinence is too
overwhelming an option. Most, however, believe that they could stay
sober for a twenty-four hour period, if necessary. We concern
ourselves, therefore only with the day in which we find ourselves. If
ever we feel we absolutely, positively must have a drink, we put it off
until tomorrow or until the next fifteen minutes if necessary. This
gives us time to call our sponsors, get to a meeting, or pray to our
Higher Power to remove the craving from us.
Open Meeting:
An
AA meeting that not just alcoholics but anyone who is interested in
Alcoholics Anonymous may attend. The discussion at these meetings,
however, is limited strictly to topics dealing with alcoholism.
Open-Mindedness:
That
state in which the mind becomes 'teachable.' Without open-mindedness,
we cannot make the changes in our thinking and perceptions that are
necessary to achieve sobriety.
Oxford Group:
A
spiritual, nondenominational, evangelical movement founded in 1921 by a
Lutheran minister, Dr. Frank Buchman. AA began as an offshoot of the
Oxford Group. Bill Wilson wrote that 'Early AA got its ideas of
self-examination, acknowledgment of character defects, restitution for
harm done, and working with others straight from the Oxford Groups...'
Both Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob were members of the Oxford Group at the
time of AA's founding.
People, Places
and Things:
Prior
to recovery, we depended upon people, places and things to make us
happy or to change our lives. In recovery, we take that responsibility
away from external events and place it on ourselves. The Twelve and
Twelve says, 'It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed,
no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us.'
Periodic:
An
alcoholic who stays sober for a period of time, loses control, goes on
a spree, and then repeats the cycle.
Pink Cloud:
The
temporary sensation of euphoria and well-being that is characteristic
to those who are new to AA and sobriety. For most, the pink cloud
eventually dissipates. This heralds the time to get down to business
and start seriously working the Steps.
Power Greater
than Ourselves:
See
'Higher Power.'
Powerlessness:
See
'Lack of Power.'
Prayer and
Meditation:
AA's
Eleventh Step calls for 'prayer and meditation to improve our conscious
contact with God as we understood Him.' One common distinction between
prayer and meditation is this: Prayer is speaking to God whereas
meditation is listening for His answer.
Preamble:
See
'AA Preamble.'
Primary Purpose:
See
'AA's Primary Purpose.'
Principles
Before Personalities:
This
phrase comes from the Twelfth Tradition, 'Anonymity is the spiritual
foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles
before personalities.' It is the principles of the program, not its
personalities, that guide recovery and keep us sober. We rely on the
Twelve Steps and their principles rather than on one individual or
group of individuals. Individuals, regardless of how charismatic, are
only human. Our ultimate reliance is on our Higher Power.
Program, the:
This
phrase refers to AA's Twelve Step program of recovery and, more
generally, to AA itself.
Progress Not
Perfection:
This
is a paraphrase of a sentence in chapter 5 of the Big Book, 'We claim
spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.' When we try to do
things perfectly, we are attempting to do the impossible. The tendency
toward perfectionism is merely a reflection of our alcoholic
grandiosity.
Progressive
Disease:
See
'Alcoholism as a Progressive Disease'.
Promises, the:
See
'Twelve Promises.'
R
Recovered
Alcoholic:
The
foreword of the Big Book opens with this sentence,'We, of Alcoholics
Anonymous, are more than one hundred men and women who have recovered
from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. To show other
alcoholics precisely how we have recovered is the main purpose of this
book.' Those who use the term 'recovered' do so because they see
themselves as having recovered from alcoholism for the one day in which
they find themselves. The word 'recovered' in this sense is not
interchangeable with the word 'cured.' There is no known cure for the
disease of alcoholism.
Recovering
Alcoholic:
But
for semantics, a 'recovering' alcoholic is the same as a 'recovered'
alcoholic. Those who call themselves 'recovering' alcoholics do so
because recovery is an ongoing process which is never fully complete.
Rehab:
A
slang word for a treatment center specializing in substance abuse.
'Rehab' is short for 'rehabilitation center.'
Relapse:
See
'Slip.'
Resentment:
Feelings
of ill will that we hold for others usually as a result of some
perceived harm they have done us. In recovery, we cannot afford to
harbor resentments because they corrode our lives and can lead us back
to alcohol. The Big Book says, 'It is plain that a life which includes
deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. To the precise
extent that we permit these, do we squander the hours that might have
been worth while.'
Rigorous
Honesty:
From
chapter 5 in the Big Book, 'They [those who do not recover] are
naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which
demands rigorous honesty.' Rigorous honesty is characterized by the
complete lack of intent to deceive one's self or anyone else.
Road of Happy
Destiny:
This
phrase is taken from chapter 11 of the Big Book, 'We shall be with you
in the Fellowship of the Spirit, and you will surely meet some of us as
you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny.' The road is 'trudged' because
recovery requires what sometimes seems like monotonous perseverance.
Rule 62:
From
the Twelve and Twelve, Rule 62 is, 'Don't take yourself too damned
seriously'
S
Searching and
Fearless Moral Inventory:
See
'Fourth Step Inventory.'
Self-Centeredness:
The
Big Book says, 'Selfishness- self-centeredness! That, we think, is the
root of our troubles.' According to Bill Wilson, recovery means
'destruction of self-centeredness.' The Twelve Steps help us achieve
that goal.
Self-Knowledge
Is Not the Answer:
This
is a paraphrase from the Big Book, 'But the actual or potential
alcoholic, with hardly an exception, will be absolutely unable to stop
drinking on the basis of self-knowledge. This is a point we wish to
emphasize and re-emphasize...' We cannot achieve sobriety solely on the
basis of knowledge about ourselves and the disease of alcoholism. It
requires working the Twelve Steps.'
Self-Pity:
Feeling
sorry for ourselves or dwelling in our own problems. We can get out of
our problems by getting into someone else's- work with another
alcoholic. Another remedy is to write a gratitude list.
Self-Seeking
Will Slip Away:
This
is characteristic is one of the Twelve Promises in the Big Book. It
will come true for those who work the program. The promise means that
we will seek to help others and to follow God's will for our lives
rather than to seek fulfillment or our own selfish desires.
Self-Supporting
through Our Own Contributions:
This
expression is from AA's preamble, 'There are no dues or fees for AA
membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions.' AA
does not solicit nor does it accept contributions from anyone other
than AA members.
Self-Will Run
Riot:
This
phrase comes from chapter 5 of the Big Book, 'Selfishness-
self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.... So
our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out
of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run
riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we
alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us!'
The only solution we know is to work the Steps.
Serenity Prayer:
The
Serenity Prayer reads in part, 'God, grant me the serenity to accept
the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and
the wisdom to know the difference.' This prayer is often used as a
mantra, of sorts, by AA members. It is a powerful tool for achieving
balance when our emotions threaten to overwhelm us.
Service:
Service
is one of AA's Three Legacies. The Big Book states, 'Our real purpose
is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people
about us.' We are of service when we carry the message to the alcoholic
who still suffers through our words, attitudes, or actions.
Seventh
Tradition:
The
Seventh Tradition (short form) states, 'Every AA group ought to be
fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.' AA accepts
contributions only from its members. There are no dues or fees for AA
membership. Donations are strictly on a voluntary basis. AA
headquarters restricts annual donations from any AA member to a maximum
of one thousand dollars. Anything over this amount or any donation at
all from a non AA member will be politely refused.
Sharing:
This
term is derived from the AA preamble, 'Alcoholics Anonymous is a
fellowship of men and women who share their experience strength and
hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help
others to recover from alcoholism.' The term 'sharing' is often used to
describe an individual's discussion at an AA meeting.
Shotgun
Sobriety:
As
the phrase suggests, this type of sobriety is based on fear of drinking
rather than on the application of AA principles. All of us in recovery
have learned a healthy respect for the power of alcohol, but we do not
live in terror of it. Long-term sobriety must be based on spiritual
principles not on fear of alcohol.
Simple Program:
This
phrase is derived from chapter 5 of the Big Book, 'Those who do not
recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to
this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally
incapable of being honest with themselves.' AA is a simple program for
complicated people, so the saying goes. AA's Twelve Step program is
simple because it works simply: one Step at a time and one day at a
time. Simplicity in this sense, does not necessarily mean ease. Working
the program requires an unwavering dedicated effort. Yet all the
strength and willingness to work the program is freely give to all
those who sincerely ask for them.
Slip:
A
common term for relapse- drinking alcohol again after a period of
sobriety in AA. The term is often used as an acronym as well: S.L.I.P;
Sobriety Loses Its Priority.
Slippery Places
(and Slippery Faces):
Slippery
places is a reference to actual places or emotional states in which we
are more likely to slip. These are, of course, to be avoided if
reasonably possible. Slippery faces refer to old drinking buddies; the
company of whom we should avoid as well. Another similar term is 'old
playgrounds and old playmates.' It is dangerous even foolish to put
ourselves in situations where we are likely to be tempted by alcohol.
Even if we believe we are now strong enough to resist temptation, we
best resist temptation by avoiding temptation altogether.
Smith, Robert
Holbrook, M.D. (a.k.a.
'Dr. Bob'):
1879-1950. Cofounder of Alcoholics Anonymous. Dr. Bob created the first
AA group in the world, AA Group Number One, in Akron, Ohio.
Sobriety Date:
Depending on who you ask; our sobriety date is the date on which we had
our last drink or the date in which we sobered up from our last drink.
Speaker's
Meeting:
An
AA meeting featuring one or more designated speakers who share their
experience, strength, and hope for the entire meeting. The speakers
talk about what life was like before AA, what brought them to AA and
what their lives are like now.
Spiritual
Awakening (a.k.a. Spiritual
Experience):
The Big Book description is a, 'personality change sufficient to bring
about recovery from alcoholism.' It also describes it as a 'profound
alteration in [our] reaction to life,' and as an 'awareness of a Power
greater than ourselves.' The difference between an awakening and an
experience is that an awaking occurs over time whereas an experience
happens suddenly.
Spiritual Tool
Kit:
This metaphor comes from chapter 2 of the Big Book, 'There was nothing
left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at
our feet.' The tools to which it refers are the Twelve Steps, reliance
on a Power greater than ourselves, and prayer and meditation.
Sponsor:
For
those who are fond of acronyms, a S.P.O.N.S.O.R. is a Sober Person
Offering a Newcomer Suggestions On Recovery. A sponsor is an AA member
who serves as a mentor of sorts to a newcomer in the program. A sponsor
typically helps a sponsee to work the Twelve Steps; shares his or her
personal experience, strength, and hope; and helps the sponsee stay on
the recovery track. Although not mentioned in the Big Book, per se,
sponsorship has become widely accepted as a crucial part of the
recovery program.
Step Study
Meeting:
An
AA meeting that focuses on a study of the Twelve Steps, usually at a
rate no more than one per meeting.
Steps:
See
'Twelve Steps.'
Stinking
Thinking:
This
phrase refers to an alcoholic's reversion to old thought patterns and
attitudes. Stinking thinking may include, blaming others, alcoholic
grandiosity, fault-finding, self-centeredness, and skipping meetings.
Stinking thinking is a warning sign to an alcoholic that he is not
working the AA program and he or she is getting precariously close to
their next drink.
Surrender:
To
surrender in AA is to effectively take the first Three Steps. It means:
1) admitting that we are powerless over alcohol and that our live have
become unmanageable, 2)coming to believe that a Power greater than
ourselves could restore us to sanity, and 3) turning our will and our
lives over to the care of God as we understand Him. Surrender is the
key to recovery. Only when we completely surrender are we willing to
let a Power greater than ourselves restore us to sanity.
T
Terminally
Unique:
An
alcoholic's idea that his or her 'uniqueness' exempts him or her from
some part of the AA program or the Twelve Steps. AA does not deny that
each individual is a unique creation. However, as alcoholics we have
far more similarities than we have differences. There is an expression
sometimes heard in AA which seems appropriate, 'Always remember that
you are unique, just like everyone else.'
Thirteenth Step (a.k.a.
Thirteenth Stepping):
There is no thirteenth step in the AA program. This term is used as a
euphemism for inappropriate sexual advances by a member to a newcomer
in AA (such as sponsors toward sponsees). Sponsors ought never be
sexually involved with those whom they sponsor. This is why it is
usually suggested that (heterosexual) newcomers choose sponsors of the
same sex, thereby avoiding the temptation. Also, it is sometimes
suggested that newcomers not enter into new relationships for at least
a year after getting sober. The reason being that sexual relationships
are prone to elicit emotional extremes, making relapse more likely. The
term 'thirteenth stepping' is always used in a negative sense.
Three Legacies
of AA:
The
Three Legacies of Alcoholics Anonymous are Recovery, Unity, and
Service. These legacies are so-called because they have been passed
down to us from the cofounders and old-timers of AA. The Legacy of
Recovery is contained in the Big Book, the Twelve Steps, and Twelfth
Step work. The Legacy of Unity is contained in the Twelve Traditions.
The Legacy of Service is contained n every act which helps AA function
or which carries the AA message to those who need it.
Traditions:
See
'Twelve Traditions.'
Treatment
Center:
A
center specializing in the treatment of alcoholism and other addictions
or disorders.
Twelfth Step
Call
(a.k.a. Twelfth Stepping):
This term describes directly carrying the AA message of recovery to an
alcoholic who still suffers.
Twelfth Step
Work:
This
term comes from AA's Twelfth Step which suggests we carry the AA
message of recovery to other alcoholics. Twelfth Step work may include
making Twelfth Step calls, sharing at AA meetings, sponsorship, and
performing service work of any kind.
Twelve and
Twelve:
This
is a nickname for the book Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.
Twelve Concepts
for World Service:
The
Twelve Concepts form the basis of AA's structure and describe how the
various parts of Alcoholics Anonymous work together. These concepts
were published in a booklet by the same name in 1962,
Twelve Promises:
This
refers to a section of the Big Book which details the benefits AA
members receive from having worked the first nine Steps of the AA
program.
'If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.
No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
Self-seeking will slip away.
Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves. (Pg.83-84)
Twelve Steps:
'AA's
Twelve Steps are a group of principles, spiritual in their nature,
which, if practiced as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink
and enable the sufferer to become happily and usefully whole.' The
Twelve Steps are the basis of the AA program of recovery.
Twelve Steps
and Twelve Traditions:
The
title of a collection of essays in book form published in 1952 by
Alcoholics Anonymous as a supplement to the Big Book. It details, as
its name implies, the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.
Two Stepper:
Slang
for an AA member who works the First Step and then jumps directly to
the Twelfth, bypassing all those in between. Shortcutting AA's program
of recovery by two-stepping, eliminates an essential part of recovery.
Any resultant sobriety is therefore shaky at best.
U
Unity:
AA's
Second Legacy of Service.
Unmanageability:
In
the first Step, we admit not only that we are powerless over alcohol,
but that our lives have become unmanageable. Only by accepting the
unmanageability of our own lives can we open ourselves to change by a
Higher Power.
W
Wet Brain:
An
alcoholic whose drinking has caused such brain damage that he or she
can no longer function in society and has to be institutionalized.
#008000 Knuckle
Sobriety:
A desperate effort to stay sober solely through the exercise of one's
own willpower. Unless one finally surrenders and begins to work the
Twelve Steps, such an effort is usually doomed to failure.
Willingness:
Unless
we are absolutely willing to listen, to change, and to work the Steps,
we won't be able to stay sober in AA. Some have found it useful, even
necessary, to pray for willingness in order to become willing.
Wilson, William
Griffith (a.k.a. 'Bill W.'):
1895-1971. Cofounder of Alcoholics
Anonymous and author of several books on the subject.